Do you wake up feeling drained and unmotivated? Do you feel like a deflated balloon, struggling to find your energy? If so, you're not alone. You might be experiencing burnout, a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by prolonged stress.

According to the American Psychological Association (APA) Work and Well-being Survey:

In 2021, 79% of U.S. employees experienced work-related stress in the month prior to the survey. 36% reported cognitive weariness, 32% reported emotional exhaustion, and 44% reported physical fatigue. Three in five employees reported negative impacts of work-related stress, including lack of interest, motivation, or energy (26%) and lack of effort at work (19%).

The current challenges are likely amplified by the significant layoffs of recent years.

Recognizing the signs

For years, I unknowingly battled burnout, mistaking toxic productivity for a badge of honor. I was obsessed with achieving perfection, constantly pushing myself and feeling like nothing was ever good enough. Childhood trauma, compounded by the weight of societal expectations, contributed to the crippling self-doubt I experienced. I talked about this in my book "Train for Joy, Break the Five Toxic Beliefs That Hold You Back From Success."

Cultivating self-awareness is crucial for personal growth and burnout prevention. Here are some common symptoms to watch out for:

• Exhaustion: Feeling constantly tired, and lacking the energy to tackle tasks.
• Cynicism and detachment: Withdrawing from work, colleagues, and loved ones, and feeling a sense of apathy.
• Reduced accomplishment: Feeling like your work is meaningless or that you're constantly failing.
• Decreased productivity: Difficulty concentrating, making mistakes, and taking longer to complete tasks.
• Physical symptoms: Headaches, stomachaches, muscle tension, sleep problems, and changes in appetite.

Learning from my own struggles

Burnout forced me to take a hard look at myself and what I truly needed. Here are the 7 mindset shifts I learned on my road to recovery:

1. Embrace progress, not perfection. Focus on making small, consistent improvements rather than the overwhelming goal of being "the best." I now believe in continuous self-improvement. Every day presents an opportunity to grow and become a better version of ourselves. Who gets to define 'best' for us?
2. Realistic standards, not idealistic goals. Lighten the load on yourself and others by setting realistic expectations that set yourself up for success. I've learned that a perfectionistic mindset led me to set unrealistic standards, leaving me constantly feeling inadequate. Now, I embrace challenges and celebrate progress. This has made a significant difference in my happiness. If you also struggle with perfectionism, I encourage you to celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small, starting now!
3. Prioritize rest. Learn the power of deep rest – a state where you're not constantly worrying about the future. I understand the struggle. You may feel like you don't have time for rest, or that resting means falling behind. I've been there too. Let's challenge that self-limiting belief. Prioritizing rest is not a luxury; it's essential for optimal physical and mental health. Finding the right type and amount of rest for your unique needs is key to thriving.
4. Practice self-compassion. "Practicing self-compassion is about treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a dear friend." Dr. Neff. When you make a mistake, instead of harshly criticizing yourself, try to approach the situation with self-forgiveness. Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes, and that learning from them is an essential part of growth. Furthermore, recognize that your limitations, especially when stemming from exhaustion, are not a reflection of your worth. Pushing yourself beyond your limits can lead to burnout and hinder your overall well-being.
5. Seek and accept support. Don't be afraid to ask for help from friends, family, or professionals. Seeking and accepting help demonstrates strength, not weakness. If, like me, you struggled with a sense of shame around asking for help (often stemming from your cultural expectations or past trauma), I encourage you to practice seeking and accepting support. Push through the uncomfortable feeling. You might be surprised by how helpful and supportive people can be.
6. Embrace creativity. Have fun. I challenge you to start rebuilding a life outside of work and daily chores. Explore hobbies that bring you joy, whether it's painting, playing an instrument, gardening, traveling or anything that sparks your interest. You'll likely notice a shift in your mood. Engaging in activities you love can reduce stress, boost your mood, and increase overall happiness. Watch a happier you emerge when you allow yourself to have fun. Redeem your joy!
7. Focus on your own journey, not others'. Shifting your focus from external comparisons to your own unique journey is crucial for cultivating genuine happiness and fulfillment. Social comparison, the constant urge to measure ourselves against others, can be a significant thief of joy. It breeds feelings of inadequacy, envy, and self-doubt. Instead of constantly comparing yourself to others, focus on your own path, your own goals, and your own definition of success. Each step forward, each hurdle overcome, is a victory worth recognizing.

Today, I challenge you to take one small step towards your well-being.

Perhaps it's starting a gratitude journal, taking a walk in nature, or simply prioritizing an earlier bedtime.

Whatever you choose, do it with the intention of nurturing your happiness and health.

Living fully. Living well.

Corinna

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